Las citas en línea son buenas para los hombres, pero no tanto para las mujeres – El Mostrador

Básicamente, las necesidades de las personas que buscan pareja en línea están más cubiertas para los hombres que para las mujeres, lo cual juega a favor de ellos. Para nosotras, es más difícil usar esas habilidades evolutivas a través de una app que para ellos.

Fuente: Las citas en línea son buenas para los hombres, pero no tanto para las mujeres – El Mostrador


Los nuevos términos que se aplican en el amor en los tiempos del WhatsApp – El Mostrador

Ghosting, benching, breadcrumbing, zombing, son los términos que se usan para definir algunos de los tipos de relaciones que entablas por Whatsapp.

Fuente: Los nuevos términos que se aplican en el amor en los tiempos del WhatsApp – El Mostrador


The internet scammer who loved me (not) | Life and style | The Guardian

On 2 February, at the cusp of Valentine’s Day, the Los Angeles sheriff’s department warned of the “growing criminal epidemic” of romance scams during a community meeting called Love Hurts. Romance scams are a type of online fraud, in which criminals pose as desirable partners on dating sites or email, win the hearts of their victims and end up fleecing them of their money.

Fuente: The internet scammer who loved me (not) | Life and style | The Guardian


Love me Tinder – tales from the frontline of modern dating | Life and style | The Guardian

Modern love is digitised. Letters and unrequited love have been replaced with modern iterations (saucy pictures and ghosting). You do not go on blind dates, you go on dates with people whose best photos you deem, at best, attractive and, at worst, passable. No one asks each other out in person any more, probably.

Fuente: Love me Tinder – tales from the frontline of modern dating | Life and style | The Guardian


Lessons in life that online dating taught me | Daisy Buchanan | Comment is free | theguardian.com

Lessons in life that online dating taught me | Daisy Buchanan | Comment is free | theguardian.com.

I learned the value of enjoying my own company, trusting my instincts and taking control. Oh, and the power of small talk
Two hearts on a computer keyboard
‘If you’re signing up to a dating site, there is a chance that you’ll end up meeting someone you really like, but no matter what happens, you will definitely come away with some brand new skills.’ Photograph: Alamy

While writing a guide to dating on the internet, I spent a lot of time revisiting the ghost of dates past. Before meeting my fiance online I was, on various occasions, bored to tears, catfished (pursued by someone who seemed to have an extensive selection of identities and no interest in actually meeting), shown some unsolicited testes, poisoned by a chicken burrito and treated to a live action one-man recreation of the fourth season of The Wire. If I learned anything about dating itself though, it was to keep laughing and not lose heart – but I also came away with plenty of other life lessons.

If you’re signing up to a dating site as your new year’s resolution, there is a chance that you’ll end up meeting someone you really like, but no matter what happens, you will definitely come away with some brand new skills. Here’s what I discovered:


For a 50-year-old woman, being yourself online is a no-no | Life and style | The Guardian

For a 50-year-old woman, being yourself online is a no-no | Life and style | The Guardian.

For any chance of success, you need to be skinny, Pilates-practising, scuba-diving – and a fan of The Fast Show
Scuba diving
Scuba diving – the mature woman’s route to a man’s heart? (Posed by models) Photograph: Alamy

For a while, my dating site profile said that the end of my relationship wasn’t my idea. I thought people would find it reassuring that I’m not a dumper, but – if you like – a dumpee. What I found was that most men didn’t find it reassuring at all. It seemed to trigger something – curiosity and then judgment. “What did you do to get dumped? Are you a bitch?” I mentioned this in an online chat one evening with a man called Neville, and asked what he thought.

“You may as well give up now,” he wrote, ignoring the question, “and withdraw from here and save your money.” I asked him what he meant.

“It’s porn that’s your problem,” he said. “Now that porn is normal, now that it’s normal to look at porn online, that’s the downfall of the middle-aged woman.

“Men are convinced that if they become bachelors again, that’s the kind of sex life they’ll get. Young women, big tits, flat stomachs, a tight fit where it matters. There are loads of gorgeous young things here who’d be happy with a 50-year-old sugar daddy. You can’t compete with that.”

Not having seen profiles written by other 50-year-old women, it was hard to know what the norm was, and how far I deviated from the average. I mentioned this to my friend Jack. Together we went in to my page with rolled-up sleeves and blitzed every one of the errors he identified – being whiney, being needy, being pompous and self-aggrandising (that hurt), overly-conventional (Radio 4 was tussled over; I won), and too bookish. The argument that it was best to be myself cut little ice. Despite his efforts, despite adding baking, London parks, gigs and beer to the list of things I like, I was still, Jack complained, all too evidently an alpha control freak and raging intellectual snob. That was limiting the response types. It was putting people off.

It is important online not to be seen to take yourself too seriously. Men engaged in online dating constantly say how unseriously they take life, as if that’s a good thing. I find it a complete turn-off, but then it is evident that I have way too many opinions. I am persisting with the accurate, off-putting version of myself.


I caught my husband watching pornography – I’m shocked | Life and style | The Guardian

I caught my husband watching pornography – I’m shocked | Life and style | The Guardian.

We have been married for more than 30 years, and I am deeply upset to learn that there is this hidden side to his character

My boyfriend rarely orgasms when we have sex

Ask Molly Ringwald: I’ve got a crush on a band-mate who is 15 years my junior

My husband and I are in our early 60s. We have been married for more than 30 years and are quite happy together, other than having had a range of family issues to deal with. Our sex life has dwindled, but we are still very affectionate.

The other night I went into my husband’s study unexpectedly and he seemed to be looking at pictures of naked women on his computer. I made no comment because there was an urgent matter requiring attention and we hurried away to attend to it. I think he believes that I didn’t see the screen.

I was shocked and wondered if I had imagined it. It seemed so out of character – he is a highly respectable, scholarly person, not inclined to tackiness. I checked his laptop a few days later – mainly to reassure myself that I had imagined it, or that they were paintings or something (he is an art fan). However, the history for that date was deleted, which was suspicious in itself. I located it in the system files and discovered he had been on a range of pornographic sites.

I am deeply, deeply upset by this. I am not prudish – it is not the pornography that I object to, but rather that I am so shocked by discovering this hidden side of his character. Am I overreacting?


El filósofo de moda explica por qué Eros agoniza y el pensamiento llega a su final – Noticias de Alma, Corazón, Vida

El filósofo de moda explica por qué Eros agoniza y el pensamiento llega a su final – Noticias de Alma, Corazón, Vida.

Uno de los ensayos que mejor acogida está teniendo en España es La agonía del Eros (Herder editorial), la obra del filósofo de la Universidad de las Artes de Berlín Byung-Chul Han. En ella, el pensador alemán de origen coreano parte de las teorías sobre la forma en que seleccionamos hoy a nuestras parejas descritas por la socióloga Eva Illouz para señalar cómo el amor está amenazado por algo más que la libertad sin fin y las enormes posibilidades de elección.

Antes, argumenta Illouz, estábamos ligados a nuestro entorno, de forma que el número de partenaires que podíamos conocer era limitado; hoy existen muchísimas más posibilidades de elección gracias a internet y eso, entre otros factores, nos ha hecho mucho más utilitaristas. Para Han, el problema va mucho más allá, ya que vivimos en una sociedad narcisista, donde la libido se invierte en la propia subjetividad y el mundo se presenta sólo como una proyección de sí mismo. Esa “erosión del otro” es la que mata al Eros, porque el narcisista no puede encontrar nada fuera que sea distinto de sí, y por lo tanto no hay nada que pueda amar.

La mejor prueba de esa erosión del otro está en el porno, que es la antípoda del Eros porque aniquila la sexualidad misma. Bajo este aspecto, dice Han, es incluso más eficaz que la moral: lo obsceno en el porno no es el exceso de sexo, sino que allí no hay sexo. La sexualidad hoy, no está amenazada por aquella razón pura que, adversa al placer, evita el sexo por ser algo sucio sino por la pornografía.


¿Buscas pareja? Conoce las aplicaciones para tener citas que cada día captan más adherentes – BioBioChile

¿Buscas pareja? Conoce las aplicaciones para tener citas que cada día captan más adherentes – BioBioChile.

Publicado por Alejandra Jara

Para conocer chicas, Leland, un estudiante estadounidense de 20 años, recurrió a “Tinder”, una nueva aplicación de teléfonos móviles que le permitió contactar a más de 400 mujeres en más de un año, aunque solo conoció a dos, y con una todo resultó “incómodo”.

“Probé esta aplicación para romper el hielo y como herramienta de seducción, en ese aspecto era bastante divertido”, contó Leland, un universitario que pidió no ser identificado.

Como el estudiante, cada vez más personas en Estados Unidos usan aplicaciones para conseguir citas amorosas, una tendencia en aumento dado el creciente protagonismo de los teléfonos móviles para organizar la vida cotidiana.

“La gente dedica mucho tiempo a ver sus e-mails o Facebook; es lo primero que hace cuando se levanta, de modo que se comprende perfectamente que busquen amigos o (traten de conseguir) citas con estas aplicaciones”, dijo a la AFP Julie Spira, autora de un libro y un blog sobre las ciber-citas.