Porn as sex education: a cultural influence we can no longer ignore | Maree Crabbe | Opinion | The Guardian

Not only does pornography commonly portray a particularly concentrated and toxic version of gender inequality, it suggests that it is sexy

Fuente: Porn as sex education: a cultural influence we can no longer ignore | Maree Crabbe | Opinion | The Guardian


Getting off offline: when porn gets in the way of a real-world relationship | Culture | The Guardian

Many believe that porn is addictive, and that the endless stream of on-demand internet erotica makes real-life sexual experiences not stimulating enough

Fuente: Getting off offline: when porn gets in the way of a real-world relationship | Culture | The Guardian


I caught my husband watching pornography – I’m shocked | Life and style | The Guardian

I caught my husband watching pornography – I’m shocked | Life and style | The Guardian.

We have been married for more than 30 years, and I am deeply upset to learn that there is this hidden side to his character

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My husband and I are in our early 60s. We have been married for more than 30 years and are quite happy together, other than having had a range of family issues to deal with. Our sex life has dwindled, but we are still very affectionate.

The other night I went into my husband’s study unexpectedly and he seemed to be looking at pictures of naked women on his computer. I made no comment because there was an urgent matter requiring attention and we hurried away to attend to it. I think he believes that I didn’t see the screen.

I was shocked and wondered if I had imagined it. It seemed so out of character – he is a highly respectable, scholarly person, not inclined to tackiness. I checked his laptop a few days later – mainly to reassure myself that I had imagined it, or that they were paintings or something (he is an art fan). However, the history for that date was deleted, which was suspicious in itself. I located it in the system files and discovered he had been on a range of pornographic sites.

I am deeply, deeply upset by this. I am not prudish – it is not the pornography that I object to, but rather that I am so shocked by discovering this hidden side of his character. Am I overreacting?


El filósofo de moda explica por qué Eros agoniza y el pensamiento llega a su final – Noticias de Alma, Corazón, Vida

El filósofo de moda explica por qué Eros agoniza y el pensamiento llega a su final – Noticias de Alma, Corazón, Vida.

Uno de los ensayos que mejor acogida está teniendo en España es La agonía del Eros (Herder editorial), la obra del filósofo de la Universidad de las Artes de Berlín Byung-Chul Han. En ella, el pensador alemán de origen coreano parte de las teorías sobre la forma en que seleccionamos hoy a nuestras parejas descritas por la socióloga Eva Illouz para señalar cómo el amor está amenazado por algo más que la libertad sin fin y las enormes posibilidades de elección.

Antes, argumenta Illouz, estábamos ligados a nuestro entorno, de forma que el número de partenaires que podíamos conocer era limitado; hoy existen muchísimas más posibilidades de elección gracias a internet y eso, entre otros factores, nos ha hecho mucho más utilitaristas. Para Han, el problema va mucho más allá, ya que vivimos en una sociedad narcisista, donde la libido se invierte en la propia subjetividad y el mundo se presenta sólo como una proyección de sí mismo. Esa “erosión del otro” es la que mata al Eros, porque el narcisista no puede encontrar nada fuera que sea distinto de sí, y por lo tanto no hay nada que pueda amar.

La mejor prueba de esa erosión del otro está en el porno, que es la antípoda del Eros porque aniquila la sexualidad misma. Bajo este aspecto, dice Han, es incluso más eficaz que la moral: lo obsceno en el porno no es el exceso de sexo, sino que allí no hay sexo. La sexualidad hoy, no está amenazada por aquella razón pura que, adversa al placer, evita el sexo por ser algo sucio sino por la pornografía.